I have been working with Ginger at Living In Progress for over thirty eight weeks now, and my weekly coaching sessions have become very important to me.  I need them as bad as I need my basketball and exercise time.  I need them almost as bad as I need my insulin and CGM.

Through all of this time, and all of the little steps we are making towards my goals, we have recognized a “change process” that I unconsciously follow.

Scott notices a “problem” in his lifestyle or habits that he knows logically he “should” want to change. As Scott considers what it would entail to actually make these changes in his life, he gets overwhelmed or intimidated by the idea of making such drastic changes. He knows he should for the sake of his health and happiness, but he doesn’t want to. As Scott steps back from actually committing to making those changes, he still exposes himself to new knowledge and research around those topics. He dabbles in new foods, dabbles in new exercise routines at his own pace. Over time, Scott makes a transition naturally to those changes because he’s chosen to make those changes in his own time.

Ginger recognized this pattern of mine, and put it into words.  The first time I heard it I was mesmerized.  It is a very dense paragraph, and it seemed so full of truth.  I had to let it all sink in for a minute, then I said “YES!! – that is EXACTLY how it seems to be for me!”.

Let’s break it down a little bit.

Scott notices a “problem” in his lifestyle or habits that he knows logically he “should” want to change.

For example, I know I should eat better, but I don’t want to change my diet.  Or I know I should drink less Diet Coke, but I don’t want to drink less Diet Coke.  Change is easier when you really want something.  When you want it, you find ways around the challenges and obstacles.

As Scott considers what it would entail to actually make these changes in his life, he gets overwhelmed or intimidated by the idea of making such drastic changes. He knows he should for the sake of his health and happiness, but he doesn’t want to.

Ever get overwhelmed when looking at what you think is a major life change?  That’s pretty normal, right?  If you’re anything like me you will jump too far into the change process, thinking you have to make drastic, quick, radical changes.  Of course those types of changes will be overwhelming! Duh!

As Scott steps back from actually committing to making those changes, he still exposes himself to new knowledge and research around those topics. He dabbles in new foods, dabbles in new exercise routines at his own pace.

The key things here are 1) exposure and 2) at my own pace.

Over time, Scott makes a transition naturally to those changes because he’s chosen to make those changes in his own time.

That exposure, at my own pace, let’s me experiment with slow change without that hard commitment and deadline.  As I learn more about what I’m working on, and start to experience some positive feeling from doing good for myself, I begin to want that change.

It starts slow.  It starts from the inside.  I like to think of it as “planting a seed of change” inside me.  It doesn’t go from a seed to a giant tree quickly.  It takes time, patience, and nurturing.

Life throws a mess of trouble at me sometimes, and I feel that I have to tuck into my protective shell to get through the shitstorm.  When that happens, all “forward progress” work stops, and I even take a few backward steps.  Maybe even a lot of backward steps?

But that little seed of change is a persistent little guy once it starts growing.  Once things settle down I feel drawn to start working again.  Once I start working again, it doesn’t feel I’ve lost as much ground as my mind would have me think.

I hope that sharing this is of some help to some people – it was pretty enlightening to me.  It also made me feel perfectly comfortable with slow change.

Ginger would tell you that this is exactly what her coaching is all about.  Change from the inside out.

 

Disclaimer: I don’t feel comfortable touting Ginger’s awesome coaching abilities without disclosing that I am not paying cash for her coaching services.  If I had to though, I would pick up another part-time job to pay whatever she wanted to charge me.  Millions even.  She is very skilled at this, and I’d be lost without it.


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6 Responses to The “Scott” Process

  1. Sara says:

    My friends have this baby girl who is almost two now. When she was learning to walk, when you would let go of her arm she would immediately sit down. We all knew she could stand by herself and she could walk like a pro holding your fingers. It was just the thought of taking the “big step” of doing it by herself that would scare her, so she would just give up.

    I feel like we probably always struggle with that fear. It just looks different as we get older :)

  2. Amy says:

    AMEN! That’s all I have to say other than mention that baby steps have changed my life. People who knew me 2 years ago and know me now can vouch for that.

  3. deanusa says:

    awesome!!
    i wish ginger could be on every place that has type 1 s.
    change.its a crazy concept.because it means doing something different.and what if i suck at it.or i dont really get it.
    so i blame the change. so i dont want to change.change brings apprehension.it brings results i am not used to seeing.so then i have to let go of my “security blankie”.
    lol and i have a death grip on some things!
    very interesting subject matter scott and ginger. this well keep me wondering for a while!

  4. Jeanne says:

    And again I say “AMEN”! Through every stage of life Ginger’s words are so true! Thank you for sharing and reminding us change comes from the inside out!

  5. Sysy says:

    She doesn’t know it, but I love Ginger lol I totally agree with her thinking on the subject of change and how we’re all a work in progress. I love that you Scott, are openly talking about your challenges and journey with us. It’s inspiring and your enthusiasm and honesty behind your efforts is really motivating. I literally do a few push ups after you talk about your fun times on the basketball court and I cut myself a break when you talk about how you and Ginger are working through your issues slowly and naturally. Love it, thanks for sharing!

  6. Penny says:

    This s so very marvelous in so many ways Scott. I am proud of you and thrilled that Ginger has helped you on your journey.

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